Should it technically be at 21 since this is my first day of being 22? I like it better like this so stop overthinking it Patricia. Add stop overthinking to the list.
I’m a little hungover from the surprise birthday party I got last night, so I’ll go right into it, k?
1. There are people out there who are smarter than me
Wait whaaaatttt? Are you serious? Sadly, yes. For a while though, I was under the impression that I knew it all better than everyone and that I was the licensed holder of the unique truth. Well, it’s not quite like that.
2. You don’t need to do it all on your own
Nobody really does it on their own 100%. Even if it’s just a piece of advice or a friend helping them carry a box down the stairs, needing/wanting help in order to reach your goals is normal. Which brings me to my next point.
3. Asking for help is not a shameful thing
Quite the opposite, it’s brave, especially if you are a little stubborn, self resilient and proud. However, only stupid people don’t ask for help because of their pride when they are in too deep. Don’t be stupid.
4. I really like my birthday
I wouldn’t want all this attention all the time, however if it’s just for one day per year, it’s fun.
5. Bottling stuff up will make you go insane
Stop keeping that shit in. If you are upset or hurt by someone, let it all out, let that shit go. Keeping negative feelings all bottled up inside is not healthy, from any standpoint. Neither is holding in farts.
6. Finding peace (with yourself) is the first thing you need to do in life
If you haven’t solved your issues with yourself yet, you should drop every single thing you’re doing/planning and work on that. Self hate lowers the quality of your life immeasurably, in every single field there is, from relationships to work, to new experiences, everything is ruined if you’re running around with a tiny, but really dark cloud above your head.
7. Just don’t talk when you’re angry
Some of the things I regret most are the things I’ve said to my friends, family or partner when I was angry. You know, spiteful things to hurt them back, because I was feeling hurt by them. They are just words, however we all know how badly words can’t hurt – and you can never take them back. If you’re in that situation, just walk away and tell them you want to talk about it when you’re not angry.
8. Overthinking will kill you
One day, you’ll be walking down the street and you will want to cross to the other sidewalk. There’s no pedestrian walk, so you decide to jaywalk. You will spend so much thinking and hesitating and analysing whether to cross or not that you’ll get run over and die.
9. Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer is total bullshit
You don’t need that negative energy and bad juju in your life. Just keep your distance and worry about your own shit.
10. Comparison will kill you
There is no one like you. Just like there is no one like you, there is no one like blogger X or influencer Y, so, for the love of god, stop trying to be like them. No one can. Just like no one could ever be exactly like you. So, instead of struggling to be like someone else, focus on becoming a more kickass you.
11. Cats love their humans
Just because they have a different way of showing it, doesn’t mean they don’t do it. Non negotiable. Non discussable. My cats love me.
12. You need to stop making excuses
Especially when it comes to doing things you want to do. This year I really want to stop making excuses for everything “I don’t have time” to do and find a way to pull through. Like lead a more active life, for one. Excuses = wasted time/life – and I really don’t want to take my life for granted.
13. Taking people/things for granted is the worst thing you could possibly do
Ungratefulness is a bitch. Don’t feed it. It’ll make you permanently unhappy.
14. Stop wanting more, more, more
Unless it’s in a positive, constructive way. I know people who have achieved great things, however they are always unhappy with their life because the second they achieve something, they more on to the next big thing. Combine this one with not taking stuff for granted and you’re good to go.
15. Have a break, have a kit kat
Or not necessarily a kit kat. But most definitely a break. While your taste in chocolate might be debatable, me time is not. You need to take a break once in a while, or your brain will kill itself.
16. Don’t do it for the vine
Don’t just do things because people tell you to. Sometimes, it’s good advice, sometimes, it’s just not you. You have to learn where to draw the line and no be afraid to do it, in order to not lose your identity.
17. Don’t ignore the bad days
There are days in which I feel amazing and others not so much. About myself, my body, what I’m doing, the reasons are many. If I just pretend I’m not feeling like crap, it will eventually go away, but I won’t know why and how to prevent these days from resurfacing. Don’t be afraid to take time to analyse your thoughts and figure out why you’re feeling the way you do – it’s the first step you need to take in order to not feel like that anymore.
18. Be good and karma can’t touch you
Unless you’ve been a really big bitch in a previous life.
19. Malibu pineapple is the best cocktail you’ll ever drink.
Coconut flavoured Malibu rum + pineapple juice. Please, just drink one for me. You’ll see what I’m talking about.
20. Not having to go to school anymore is terrifyingly amazing
Graduating felt amazing laced with just a teensy tiny little bit of fear. Cheers to taking over the world now.
21. Being shy is a blessing and a curse
Combined with my resting bitch face, my shyness sometimes makes me seem a stuck up intimidating bitch. Which is fine by me on days when I don’t really feel like talking to people. Sometimes I wish I could talk to people, yet my shyness stops me from doing it – that’s when it sucks.
22. You don’t have to fit in the stereotypes of them to be successful
This one depends on how you define success. If by successful you mean super famous and super duper rich, I am not. However what I consider a huge success and my greatest achievement is the fact that I get messages from you almost daily. Messages about how my posts helped you, made you think or made you laugh – and that means the whole world to me. That makes me feel like the most successful blogger/journalist/writer there is. And it’s pretty obvious that I do not fit within the “successful blogger” stereotype.