La playa is for everybody.
You know that feeling when your legs go numb and/or your heart falls through your butterfly filled stomach? Before you have to take your clothes off?
No, I’m not talking about the first time with your significant other. I’m talking about those moments when your friends invite you to the beach, and you’d LOVE LOVE LOVE to go, but you are just so riddled by your insecurities that you end up going and dreading being seen; or worse, not going at all, and moping around at home.
I think I’ve already told you that having a body equates to also having a beach body. Just slap some on some swimwear and you are good to go. But if you are still feeling insecure about letting it all hang loose and slaying the beach, I’ve whisked up up 7 Confidence Boosters to pick you up. I got you, boo! <3
EVERYBODY CAN GO TO THE BEACH
Honey, you don’t have to be this tall, that skinny, that ripped, or that curvaceous to go. It’s not an exclusive perfect people only club. It’s not like there’s someone is waiting at the entrance to fit you through a cardboard cutout of Sofia Vergara or Joe Manganiello and you can only go to the beach if you pass the hotness test. It’s a place for every BODY.
THE BEACH IS NOT A RUNWAY
Don’t be nervous, you’re not going to run into Naomi Campbell. And even if you do, she probably won’t be wearing her weave at the beach or be highlighted, contoured, all around snatched and… she won’t be photoshopped (not even the girl in the magazine really looks like the girl in the magazine, remember?). So relax and bask in the sun a little!
PRETTY MUCH ALL WOMEN HAVE CELLULITE
Cellulite is not a “fat girl” thing. It’s not even a girl thing, some men have cellulite too. I have skinny friends who have more cellulite than I do. It can occur to anyone skinny, slim, curvaceous or muscular. It can be caused by hormonal factors and genetics and even clothing: wearing underwear with tight elastics across your bum will limit the blood-flow and will contribute to the formation of cellulite.
So put a bikini on your curvy/small/rock hard/saggy/flat bum and strut that thing down to the beach.
WOMEN AROUND YOU ARE JUST AS INSECURE AS YOU ARE
If it comforts you, it’s a good thing to know. Us women we really are weird. I bet you have a top 5 list of things you don’t like about your body. And guess what? So do the other women around you when you go to el plaja. One especially sad/weird thing I’ve noticed is that most women aren’t looking around to judge others for their flaws, they’re looking around for women who look better than them, some sort of insecurity justifying mechanism. Don’t. Your body is fine. You are there to relax and you deserve that.
Stop obsessing about your body and other women’s bodies and go take a dip.
YOUR FLAWS MAKE YOU WHO YOU ARE
I can picture a world in which we all had the exact same perfect features and it is terribly boring. I love the uniqueness my flaws provide me with. I love my curvy thighs, my big boobs and my waist. And I love my freckles, E and I think they’re really cute. And if we mentioned her, I also love Sofia’s slender physique and her big mouth and pearly whites — they make her seem super approachable and nice. I love Ashley Graham’s arms, I think they’re beautifully proportioned to her body. Do I even need to talk about her behind? It’s to die for! What I’m trying to point out is that all the things I’ve mentioned might be considered flaws by some; it’s important to change your perspective and try to see things less constrained by society’s judgemental views. Embrace your peculiarities.