It’s a mindset. An attitude.
I don’t like cauliflower. In fact, I goddamn hate it. I hate the smell, the taste, the texture and I’m pretty sure that if you were to cook it with lamb, another one of my “favourite” dishes, it would open an evil portal and hell would unleash on earth. I also hate yellow with every fibre of my body. I’m pretty sure my personal version of hell would be being locked in a room in which everything is yellow, forced to eat cauliflower and lamb for the rest of the eternity. However, I’m pretty sure there are people out there whose favourite food is cauliflower or lamb, or whose favourite colour is yellow – however it beats me how you can enjoy such horrendous things.
But what does that have to do with being sexy? Well, you’d be surprised. The reason for which you don’t feel sexy is because you are insecure and you are insecure because you perceive certain parts of your body as flawed. Society has had various beauty standards over the years, and whenever someone didn’t really fit that standard they deem themselves as unattractive. The funniest thing is, my grandma told me the story of how she was ashamed with her body when she was young before she was too skinny and everyone would laugh at her, call her names, because back then being curvy was the norm, the trend. Now curvy girls hate their body because being skinny is the trend.
But Patricia, you still haven’t told us what the hell does feeling sexy has to do with lamb chops!
De gustibus non est disputandum – which means that when it comes to personal tastes, there’s no room for discussion. While you might like skinny legs, I adore my thick thighs, round hips and big butt. You might like small breasts, I love my Ds, even though sometimes they give me horrible back aches. The best part about it all? That’s perfectly fine. We are all entitled to our opinions when it comes to defining beauty, or sexiness. I can make you feel attracted to my body type no more than you can make me think my body is ugly, disgusting, not sexy. And I shouldn’t try to convince you otherwise and neither should you! Being different and having different perceptions on what beauty really is makes this world a more diverse place – and it would be a much happier place if people felt less entitled to tell you what “is” sexy and what “isn’t”. Because de gustibus.
I guess the moral of the day is, if you like lamb chops feel free to eat them, but please don’t shove them down my throat.
Moving on from what’s sexy when it comes to our bodies, because I think being and feeling sexy is so much more than just physical. I’ve seen women with “the perfect body”, magazine standard, being extremely insecure. I’ve also seen women whose bodies definitely don’t fit in society’s beauty standards give off such a sensual, sexual, captivating energy that they sparked a little fire even in me, the straightest person you’ll most likely ever meet (even my own vagina scares me).