Clothes and gender stereotyping. Name a more iconic duo.
Pink is for girls and blue is for boys. But pink is for boys and blue is for girls as well. They’re just colours. Come on, are we really going to let something as innocent as colours and frills divide us? I wish the answer were no, however, our society tends to say yes. And I’m not just talking about how clothes are divided in shops, how there’s toys for girls and toys for boys, but how people tend to judge and downright discriminate those who do not fit within their gender’s stereotypes.
And that is sad, in my humble opinion. Very sad. There’s so many things diving us nowadays, from race (still), to religion, to political convictions, must we also include pants and skirts into the equation? I strongly believe we shouldn’t. There’s way more things, especially more serious and impactful things you can worry about than policing the way someone chooses to dress or to self express.
And, whether you see fashion as frivolous or not, I think it’s safe to say that self expression is not. There are few things more liberating than being able to truly be yourself, from the way you talk, to the way you walk, to the way you dress up. For some, the way they dress is not exactly a big deal, it’s not a big part of who they are – and that’s ok. For others, however, the way they dress up and they way they get to present themselves to the world is a huge part of who they are as individuals. So why not let them have that freedom?
Fashion is constantly evolving – so it society (theoretically).
Some time ago (and not that long, actually), women would crush their ribs from wearing corseted frocks. That changed and bravely so, women started wearing something that used to be reserved exclusively for men: pants. How liberating is to be able to throw on a pair of yoga pants and spread out instead of wearing tights and uncomfortable skirts? I just got out of one and slipped into some extra comfy house pants so I can definitely attest that it’s incredibly liberating. I know women who literally hate skirts and dresses, they find them uncomfortable and complicated, so they only wear pants.
If you’re one of them, could you imagine not having that option? Being forced to wear something you don’t like simply because someone decided that’s the appropriate way to dress for your gender? It would suck. And it does suck, for many men who would like to wear a skirt once in a while without fearing of being attacked when they walk down the street.
THINGS THAT ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHAT A PERSON’S WEARING:
- Their integrity
- Their morals
- Their loyalty
- Their sense of humour
- Their culture
- Their kindness
- Their attitude
- If they like cats or not
Another inconsistency I find rather funny in the whole “men can’t wear skirts” polemic is how, if there’s a cultural aspect involved, it suddenly becomes all right. National pride. Celebrating the ancestry. Yes, let’s talk about kilts. They really are just skirts. Pleated skirts. So why when we have this cultural excuse, skirt wearing men get a free pass, but when it’s simply a personal choice, something hits the fan?
Something I think that, sadly, has a lot to do with men being shamed for adopting “feminine” styles is the fact that femininity is disregarded as a whole (still) in our society. Being a man/manly is far superior to being a woman/feminine, so why would a man in their right mind choose to be more womanly? This, again, if we’re dwindling among gender stereotypes, as I, personally, don’t understand how a colour can be neither feminine nor masculine. Is an apple a girly or a manly fruit?
- The first women who wore pants were arrested
- Makeup was invented by men, for men
- Same goes for heels
- Perfume was invented to that people could cover the smell and not bathe
- Ok that was kind of unrelated, but still fun
Just because things have been done in a certain way for a really long time, it doesn’t mean they’re right. Women couldn’t vote, work or receive an education for a really long time. Or remember that time when people used to have slaves? I think we can all agree that, even through these things were considered the norm for many, many years, it doesn’t make them right. So why can’t a man wear a skirt or put on some lipstick if that’s what boosts his self confidence or happiness? Is that really so bad?
I could go on talking about this for ever. And ever. And ever ever. Bottom line is, I think there’s so much more that’s defining about a person than what they choose to wear. If they’re kind, if they’re generous, if they’re loyal, if they’re smart, if they’re funny – these are all real qualities that should matter in a person, so much more than whether they’re wearing pants or not.
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