Except size awesome, maybe.
Have you ever been to a shop, found an item that you really, really, really loved, tried it on and left disappointed as it was not flattering, not pretty enough – some of your flaws maybe were not completely marked or covered? Has it ever occurred to you that looking pretty is not the rent you have to pay in order to live on this Earth? I know, right? Shocking. But it’s true.
You don’t really owe anybody anything, especially when it comes to what you look like.
So, when it comes to personal style, whether you’re too skinny or too fat, you’ve got all the right to wear that dress/shirt/jeans/you get what I mean that you loved so much. Even if it shows your rolls, you don’t have the boobs for it, it’s too short for your age and any other silly reason society might’ve taught you to tell yourself.
Style is an important part of our lives (sure, there are people who really don’t care – no worries, skip the text, enjoy the pretty pictures xoxo). Some label clothes or caring about what clothes you wear superficial and, on some level I agree – when it comes to showing off what “brands” you’re wearing and those brands being proof of your worth, success, wealthiness, etc. However, I think that clothes are, first and foremost, ok, maybe after something that allows us to leave the house without sending nudes to everyone on the street, the most direct and effective form of self expression. Clothes describe you, without you even having to open your mouth once. Clothes are a manifestation of our mood, our feelings, our personal tastes, our beliefs even.
So, why would you rob someone of their right to self expression? That’s a little dramatic, I know, I’m sorry.
But still, there are so many rules “imposed” by an industry that has been ignoring over 80% of us for so long.
No, I don’t believe that 80% of women are overweight, relax. However, I do believe that clothes are made after a mould that no more than 20% of us can meet. Skinny women are usually frustrated about the fact that some clothes have a deep cleavage they cannot fill, I, for one am frustrated that in order to get anything to fit on my boobs, I have to go at least one size up, which makes it lose on my waist and too big when it comes to the shoulders – imagine how hard it is for a skinny woman with big boobs to find something that really fits.
Do you see my point now? We are all different and clothes aren’t, really, made for more than one body type to begin with. But things are changing.
Some say fat people should never wear tight fitting clothes. Or short skirts. Or try being stylish.
I think it’s safe to say that I disagree. More that that, I grabbed the stunning Ioana Grama and, with the help of H&M Romania, went on a quest to prove my point – that no matter what size you are, you can be stylish as hell.
Initially, I thought it would take us quite a while to find 5 different outfits to look good on both of us. Ioana is tall & skinny, while I am the queen of curvy midgets, so you can understand why I had my worries/doubts. Believe it or not, these were the first five outfits that we tried on. I had to juggle a little with the sizes, went up or down (yes, down!) for certain items, however they all looked damn awesome. And the funniest thing is, I’ve been staying away somehow from these kind of outfits – especially jean skirts, because I thought there’s no possible way they’d look good on me. Joke’s on me.
Everybody is telling you that you should just love yourself, be bold, be stylish – however very few people actually tell you HOW TO GODDAMN DO IT. There is no love, boldness or stylishness button that you can just push and get them.