It has been searched for far and wide, researched for years on end, debated, argued, proved, disproved, yet the mystery (for some) still prevails:
Does the clitoris really exist?
Spoiler alert: it does.
Before we go into geolocations, I’m sure there are people who don’t even know what a clitoris is. Well, I personally like to call it the Holy Grail of Orgasms, however for a more scientific definition we have “The clitoris is a female sex organ present in mammals, ostriches and a limited number of other animals. In humans, the visible button-like portion is near the front junction of the labia minora (inner lips), above the opening of the urethra. Unlike the penis, the male homologue (equivalent) to the clitoris, it usually does not contain the distal portion (or opening) of the urethra and is therefore not used for urination. While few animals urinate through the clitoris, the spotted hyena, which has an especially well-developed clitoris, urinates, mates and gives birth via the organ. Some other mammals, such as lemurs and spider monkeys, also have a well-developed clitoris”.
However, besides spotted hyenas and spider monkeys, I think that what needs to stand out for you if you don’t know what a clit is, is the word ORGASM. Yes, you know, climax, happy ending? That thing at the end of intercourse or whatever sexual based activity which for the penis ends in ejaculation and for the vagina it ends in an orgasm you can never tell if it’s real or not?
I’ll leave my mocking tone at the door, however I think that not knowing where the clitoris is, or even worse, what it is, has a lot more to do with people’s selfishness and entitlement, than them being bad in bed. I’m mostly talking about men here, really, because if you are dating someone with a vagina who still won’t stimulate your clit, that’s just an excuse for a human being and you should dump them stat.
Our current sexual culture & stigma that surrounds sexual education leaves men uneducated, some still living with the impression that women don’t enjoy sex. And we really don’t, when it’s bad. And if you can’t find the clit, well, it’s bad. Come on. Yes, it’s small, yes it’s very different in shape & size for every woman, however that’s one thing we all have in common: we can’t come unless the clit is stimulated as well. Yes, there’s more types of orgasms than the clitoral ones, however if you can’t find the clit there’s no way in hell you can produce a vaginal orgasm. The belief that we don’t really like to have sex, combined with the other fun belief that women’s role is still somehow to serve men leads to us having a lot of bad sexual encounters.
But they don’t have to happen. All we need is the magic C word and a little less selfishness. Communication. After men have understood that yes, women also really love the love, they can also ask one simple question: “Hey guurl, where yo clit at?”. And the respective guurl will guide you to her respective clitoris and your sexual encounter will have a happy ending. Otherwise, it will have a fake happy ending and, in my opinion, there’s nothing sadder than a woman having to fake the big O.
Sadly I can’t give you a tutorial, because the clit doesn’t come with a roadmap. Both the shape/size varies in every woman and also the way she likes it stimulated is different. So talk to your girl. And girls, talk to your partners. There’s nothing shameful in telling a guy that he could do better. I mean, if he would be doing the dished, you’d tell him if he were doing them wrong, right? So, why won’t you tell him when he’s doing you wrong?
Now, girls. If you tried explaining, showing, pointing, drawing maps and biologically accurate illustrations and it still doesn’t work, I definitely don’t think you should simply accept the situation. Nope, honey, you need to bring in help.
While this baby might not be as cute as the Mr Bunny we’ve previously talked about, it is clitorally mindblowing. After using it the first time, I honestly felt sorry for everyone who’s ever tried to stimulate my clit ever, including myself – because you can’t compete with it. It’s unlike anything I’ve ever felt before. So what is this weird but cute little golden toy?
It’s a sonic clitoral massages, which means it doesn’t rely on vibrations, like most toys do, but on sonic waves and pulses. Why is that better? Because it stimulates 75% more of your clitoris – even the parts that are not external & visible/touchable (yes, the clitoris sort of continues in you – I’d make a great anatomy explainer, I know).
“SONA Cruise features eight different and intensely pleasurable settings, so you can find the perfect sensation for you. The interface has been redesigned too, making the buttons so easy you can use them with your eyes closed. And you will.”
When the product description on the website is so good that you just have to use that. And, by the way, I guarantee you will. The Sona Cruise is also fully waterproof (so you can use it in more places than just your bed or dry land) & wait for it, this is one of my favourite parts, it’s rechargeable via a USB. Welcome to the future.
The Lelo Sona is just one option from the wide selection of clitoral stimulators you can find on LoveIsland.ro
I honestly & wholeheartedly recommend this toy to every single clitoris bearer out there. Whether you have great sex or you don’t, it really doesn’t matter – because the sensations don’t compare. I’m not saying that it feels better than the stimulation of your loved one, it’s like comparing apples with pears (they’re both fruit, they’re both sweet but they’re not the same). It’s just unique & incredible, in my opinion. Am I boasting too much? Well, I believe incredible is a suitable adjective for a device that made me orgasm in less than a minute. Yup, it’s that good.